Tag: anxiety

Don’t Make an Enemy of Your Best Friend.

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What is the worst thing a guy can do to his best friend?

Ask him to be the Best Man at his wedding!

He will have to make a speech fitting for the occasion and also find a tuxedo that fits. He will lie awake night after night wondering what to say and worrying about it.  It will totally occupy his mind for weeks. As the time draws near pimples will start sprouting on his face from the stress. Everyone else’s preparations for the wedding seems to be going smoothly except his speech.

Finally the day arrives, the guests look splendid and happy but the best man cannot enjoy himself, it is the worst experience of his life. He is sure he will make a fool of himself, no one will find his jokes funny.

Fight or flight mode kicks in, all the blood drains from his brain to his muscles in readiness to run like hell. His memory, starved of oxygen and blood shuts down and he completely forgets his opening lines. His mouth is so dry not a word can come out. Poor guy!

My advice: Don’t make an enemy of your best friend by asking him to be best man at your wedding unless you provide him with an experienced speaking coach.  If you ask me, I know just the man for the job. He makes speaking in front of an audience an exciting and fun challenge. He can provide your best man with guidance on gathering content, structuring and delivering his speech. And perhaps most importantly, how to make it really captivating by weaving in anecdotes and stories. The audience will love it and he will be the second most popular guy.

For workshops and 1:1 specialised coaching:

martin.jugmans@gmail.com

 

 

How to Manage Public Speaking Anxiety.

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The skills in giving a great presentation lie in preparation and practice.

What are the most common fears of giving a presentation?

* Fear of what people might think.
* Fear of how one looks.
* Fear of losing the thread.
* Fear of being vulnerable/showing weakness.
* Fear of being insignificant/lack of self-confidence.
* Fear of people losing interest.
* Fear of being in the limelight.
* Fear of feeling intimidated by the audience.
* Fear of making a joke and people not laughing.
* Fear of the power of the moment.
* Fear of failure.
* Fear of success.

10 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Giving Presentations.

1) Goal.
Get a clear idea of how you want your audience to feel at the end of your presentation and keep this in mind during the preparations. What exactly do you want to convey? It is also important to determine beforehand how you will feel during the presentation.

2) Know your audience.
Find out who will be attending and include references appealing to their specific interests.

3) Construct your presentation.
It is important here to imagine yourself actually doing the presentation. Where is the venue, what does the interior look like how will it be when the auditorium is full? Will there be a microphone, handheld or lapel model? How will the lighting be? How will you be dressed, what sort of hand and body movements will you be making to reinforce your overall message. How will your voice sound? What sort of visual aids will you be using and where will they be placed?

4) Act confident.
Even if nervous, start the presentation with full confidence in a clear and controlled manner. Prepare an intro that captures the audience’s attention. Invite curiosity, excitement, mystery, shock, amazement, the audience will love it.

5) Content.
Use logic and a coherent organisation. Make references to the sources of quotes. Research the subject adequately. When using visual aids make sure they can be clearly seen, always speak to the audience and not to the screen or object.

6) Emotion.
Be sincere and convey a strong sense of conviction. Show your own excitement about what you are talking about. Allow the audience to really feel what is happening, use personal stories and humorous examples to illustrate a point. This will keep your presentation interesting.

7) Conclusion.
Maintain a sense of confidence while wrapping up with a powerful conclusion that sums up the entire presentation. The end is what your audience is mostly likely to remember. Make sure it sticks.

8) Practice.
Practice from beginning to end using all the props. Ask someone to watch you and make a recording. Listen to feedback. Practice until notes are no longer needed. Practice adding expression by refining variations in voice, volume, rate and tone. Speaking in a clear voice will hold the audience’s attention.

9) Speaking skills.
Polish your skills by getting acquainted with Toastmasters International or a Speakers Association. Watch videos of famous speeches, comedians and presenters. Anyone can do it.

10) Breathing.
Before speaking keep your breathing steady. Feel a sense of gratitude for the having the privilege of doing the presentation. Having done a thorough preparation the presentation will flow and if any disturbances occur you are better equipped to deal with them. For now all you need remember is your opening lines.

The key to overcoming fear when giving presentations is to build confidence. Knowing what you are going to do and how you are going to do it will make the experience enjoyable.