What is the worst thing a guy can do to his best friend?
Ask him to be the Best Man at his wedding!
He will have to make a speech fitting for the occasion and also find a tuxedo that fits. He will lie awake night after night wondering what to say and worrying about it. It will totally occupy his mind for weeks. As the time draws near pimples will start sprouting on his face from the stress. Everyone else’s preparations for the wedding seems to be going smoothly except his speech.
Finally the day arrives, the guests look splendid and happy but the best man cannot enjoy himself, it is the worst experience of his life. He is sure he will make a fool of himself, no one will find his jokes funny.
Fight or flight mode kicks in, all the blood drains from his brain to his muscles in readiness to run like hell. His memory, starved of oxygen and blood shuts down and he completely forgets his opening lines. His mouth is so dry not a word can come out. Poor guy!
My advice: Don’t make an enemy of your best friend by asking him to be best man at your wedding unless you provide him with an experienced speaking coach. If you ask me, I know just the man for the job. He makes speaking in front of an audience an exciting and fun challenge. He can provide your best man with guidance on gathering content, structuring and delivering his speech. And perhaps most importantly, how to make it really captivating by weaving in anecdotes and stories. The audience will love it and he will be the second most popular guy.
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